Win hearts and Gain success with the Right Attitude

 

 

 Attitude is a windowpane with which you see the outer world. If that windowpane is clean, everything will appear clear to you. Problems will not stay on that glass for long. You will see everything with a positive outlook. But if it is dirty, everything will appear blurry to you. The dirt will become your problems, which will eventually land you in deep water. It will breed a sense of negativity in you that will last forever until you you wipe off your windowpane and remove the dirt. Someone with a positive attitude will seize every opportunity as it comes whereas someone with a negative attitude will miss out on opportunities. To exemplify, if a glass half-filled with water is kept in front of a person having a positive mindset, he will say it's half full and it will be enough to quench his thirst whereas if it is kept in front of someone having a totally opposite mindset, he will start complaining. It will appear half empty to him. He will not drink it until it's full and eventually, will miss out on the opportunity. 

 Do you know that your attitude defines your character? There’s this friend of mine who has this habit of seeing the negative aspects of everyone or everything. I call him a pessimist. He is the kind of person that would never praise you for your good deeds or acts but condemn you for your one feeble act. Also, I have a friend named Muskan who focuses on the positive aspects of everything. She has the tendency to ignore the bad things and find the good part in everyone she meets. She keeps the right attitude and thus, is very happy.

Love and hatred are not just words. These words can really define who you are. If you try to love every creature on this planet, you will be happy. If you treat everyone with contempt, you will be unhappy. It can be inferred that love is positive and hatred is something that is otherwise. 

 With the right attitude, you can predict future outcomes. You can become whatever you want if your attitude is right. One day I was conversing with my friend and he said,” You become what you think. If you think that you will make a difference one day, you will. And if you think you can’t achieve much in your life, you will not. Your attitude can really decide your future. Without the right attitude, you can’t shape your future.”  

 Attitude is something that can’t be changed in a day or two. It will take you a couple of fortnights or even years to change your attitude. If you are habituated to smoking or drinking, it will not go away in a day or two. First, you have to reduce its intake, and then you can start taking some tablets to help you get rid of it. Similarly, if you have a habit of yelling at everyone, it will not go away by reading this excerpt or by listening to a motivational speaker. Just like it takes years to develop a habit, it takes a similar amount of time to let go of it. 

Here are some instances of how your attitude can win you friends/people and can help you gain success. 

 One day I went to the showroom from which I purchased my car, for servicing. The guy at the service counter treated me really well and sat there patiently until I was done listing my concerns. After which he sent my car for the servicing and told me to wait in the customer lounge. While I was sitting in the lounge, the employee there asked me if he could get me a cup of coffee or tea. I told him to get me a cup of coffee along with some cookies after which he went enthusiastically to the pantry and returned with a tray. I thanked him and he asked me whether he could do anything else to serve me better. I told him, “I am fine for now. I will let you know if I need anything.” After I was done having my coffee, he returned again to pick up the cutlery and asked me again if I needed another cup. I was starving so I asked him if he could get me another cup. He again went to the pantry and came back with a cup of coffee in his hand. It was the second time that I had asked him for a cup of coffee. He returned again and asked me if I needed another cup. I told him, “It’s really nice of you but I have had my fill.” He won me over with his attitude and conviviality.

 Recently a driver tried to jump speed the traffic light whilst a woman was crossing the zebra crossing. A woman was seen walking casually in the middle of the road with her earphones on when a speeding driver suddenly appeared in front of her. The woman's reaction was so horrendous that it sent shivers down my spine. She got so furious that she started causing damage to the car. First, she broke the side mirrors of the car, and then she tried to break into the car by hitting the front door glass. When all her efforts went in vain, she started pelting the car with stones. The diver sat patiently while she was doing all of this. After successive acts of hostility, he opened the gate of his car to pick up the side mirrors that were rammed by this particular woman. And when he started complaining about her hostile behavior to the policeman stationed there she started slapping him and the policeman stood there as if it was a movie scene that was being shot. She slapped him like 20-40 times and nobody but a man came to his rescue at the end and to my surprise, she slapped him as well after which the matter was taken up by the local police. While she was doing all of this he didn't even say a word or didn't even slap her once.

 A perfect example that manifests a contrast between the right and the wrong attitude. He remained undeterred and calm despite her frivolous acts of defaming him. He could have slapped her or could have abused her, but he didn't. While the woman lost all her composure, he behaved throughout with a certain sangfroid. In this case, the man kept the right attitude and won me over.